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Why Are Kids So Loud?
Most kids are noisy monsters with incredible vocal energy. While most adults love some quiet time when they want to relax, children will not follow the same sentiments. They like noise, mess and madness!
So why are kids so loud? There are many possible reasons why kids love shouting at the top of their voices and being noisy in what they do. Here are a few possible reasons.
Top Reasons Why Kids Are So Loud
Kids are still very young; they don’t fully understand what social expectations regarding certain behavioral norms are and why these standards are being set. 
I was at a restaurant recently with only a few people dining there. The place was very quiet. But not for long. I don’t know if it was because of the uncomfortable silence, but my son started shouting out rhymes and nonsensical phrases at the top of his voice. We were attracting a lot of attention, and I was embarrassed. So I shushed him sternly.
I was wrong, though.
When it’s very quiet in a public place, we automatically assume that we must follow suit. We assume that children, too, must adhere to these unreasonable expectations. Children don’t understand the many complications of the adult world. And it is best to keep it that way as long as possible.
Sometimes they like how their voice carries over a sea of silence. Sometimes they just want to fill in the emptiness. Or they could be just establishing their presence and wanting to attract attention. Either way, the answer is never to shush them.
2. They Are Excited
Kids tend to get louder and louder the more excited they become. This is more often the case in my house when my kids have their cousins visiting. The combined noise of kids shouting in unison and toys being tipped over is deafening. 
Children are not yet equipped with the ability to control their emotions. Very rarely will you see a kid that is able to control themselves when they are excited.
But rest assured. Their excitement does not last very long. Children will soon tire themselves from shouting and quieten down by themselves.
3. Frustration
Kids tend to be too loud when they are frustrated. And you can’t blame them for it.
I grew up on a small farm that had plenty of space to run, play and explore. But unfortunately, this is not what we are able to give our children. Living in the city within the four walls of a tiny apartment will typically cause frustration. All that built-up energy tends to seek release in their loudness.
4. Rebellion
When a kid is loud, the answer is never to shush them up. I learned this the hard way.
I don’t know if this is the general behavior of kids or if it is just mine. But I’ve noticed that when they are louder than usual, especially when you want them to be quiet. Instances include when I am trying to have a nap, talking to somebody on the phone or trying to put the youngest to sleep.
If you say, “Shush! Be quiet!” it is like an invitation for more noise. It’s fair too. Adults don’t like being shushed. It hurts their sentiments. When we try to shush a child up, we are not respecting their space or their importance in our lives.
I have found some approaches that work better. For instance,
“I have an important phone call to make. Do you think you can play in another room until I finish?”
“Once I put your brother
to sleep I can play with you.”
“I am tired. Why don’t you read a book while I try to have a rest?”
5. Potential hearing problem
This is not very common because most babies are screened for hearing problems at birth. Loudness in kids is normal and does not always imply hearing problems.
But if they are being persistently too loud when they speak and fail to respond to what you say too often, then you might have to have their hearing checked.
Please refer to this for an indepth article about hearing loss in children and its symptoms.
Why Are Kids So Loud? Tips to Deal with Them
- Keep speaking to them in soft tones. Never raise your voice and speak above the din. Children will automatically lower their voices to match yours.
- Speak to them softly in public places. They will gradually understand that yelling in public places is not appropriate.
- Explain to them that you can still hear them when they speak softly.
- Give them the attention they deserve. Then children will learn that they do not have to shout to be heard.
- Allow them space to test their boundaries. Your children need to be able to shout and vent when they feel like it, so don’t stop them. Set boundaries for them where it is okay to make noise, like in their nurseries or in the garden.
- Never shush them. I learned the hard way that trying to silence them will only have the opposite effect.
Why Are Kids So Loud? Conclusion
Kids shout and yell due to many reasons. They could be excited, happy or unaware of social norms. It could also be due to potential hearing problems.
But otherwise, it is normal for kids to be loud. They are just themselves, and I think it is important to respect this and allow them the space and freedom they deserve.
Also read: What I like about the New Yorker Gentle Parenting article
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